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Thriving Despite Grief
PAT SHARP, PH.D. Grief Counseling For Individuals & Families
Common Questions

How can this program help me?
A number of benefits are available from participating in this program:

By having a relationship with others going through a similar expeience of grief you will find support and learn from one another. During the individual and group sessions the Coach will guide you in successfully meeting the day to day challenges of grieving. The 7 modules of the Alive Again! program will offer you workbook type experiences to walk you through the necessary healing steps from just surviving grief  to thriving after grief. It is meant to be worked on after listening to the free webinar offered on the Home Page. The benefits you obtain will depend on how well you use the process and then put into practice what you've learned. Some of the benefits available from coaching  include:
  • Attaining a better understanding of your grief process
  • Developing skills for readjusting to your new life
  • Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
  • Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
  • Improving your overall outlook on your new life
  • Changing old behavior patterns and developing new ones
  • Discovering new ways to solve problems wihout your loved one
  • Improving your self-esteem and boosting self-confidence

Do I really need coaching?  I can usually handle my problems.  
Everyone goes through challenging situations in life, and while you may have successfully navigated through other difficulties you've faced, there's nothing wrong with seeking out extra support when you need it. In fact, therapy is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and that is something to be admired. You are taking responsibility by accepting where you're at in life and making a commitment to change the situation by seeking help.  Coaching provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you the tools you need to overcome whatever challenges you face. 

Why do people go to a coach and how do I know if it is right for me?

People have many different motivations for seeking help.   Most, like you, are going through a major life transition following the death of their spouse. They may not be handling stressful circumstances well.  Some people need assistance managing a range of other issues such as low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, fear, spiritual conflicts and other challenges.  Coaching  can help provide some much needed encouragement and help with skills to get them through these periods.  Other people may be at a point where they are ready to learn more about themselves or want to be more effective with their new goals in life.   In short, people seeking help are ready to meet the challenges in their lives and ready to make changes in their lives. 
What is coaching like?
Because each person has different issues and goals for coaching it will be different depending on the individual.  In general, you can expect to discuss the current events happening in your life, your personal history relevant to your issue, and report progress (or any new insights gained) from the previous session.  Depending on your specific needs, help can be short-term,  or longer-term, to deal with more difficult patterns or your desire for more personal development.  
It is important to understand that you will get more results from coaching if you actively participate in the process.  The ultimate purpose of coaching is to help you bring what you learn in session back into your life.  Therefore, beyond the work you do in our sessions, your coach may suggest some things you can do outside of our work to support your process. The workbook modules of the Alive Again! program are intended for this purpose of putting into practice what you learn. People seeking help are ready to make positive changes in their lives, are open to new perspectives and take responsibility for their lives.   
What about medication?  
It is well established that the long-term solution to emotional problems and the pain they cause cannot be solved solely by medication. In grief, many need the support of medications for a short period of time as they deal with their grief. But the work of grieving requires information; information you most likely do not have the energy to find on your own.  Coaching addresses the cause of our distress and the behavior patterns that curb our progress. You can best achieve sustainable growth and a greater sense of well-being with an integrative approach to wellness.  Working with your medical doctor you can determine what's best for you, and in some cases a combination of medication and coaching or therapy (provided by a licensed practicioner in your state) is the right course of action. 
Do you take insurance?
Because our sessions are referred to as coaching or educational work,  they are not covered by insurance companies. Our sessions will either be through Skype, VSee or telephone, depending on your wishes. 
Ethical Considerations: 

Mental Health services provided via teletherapy by licensed professionals are still in a state of development. Currently, while licensed in Washington State, we can not provide counseling to patients residing in a different state or a country outside of the United States. We are licensed practicing psychotherapists providing coaching or educational services to clients worldwide. We uphold the same ethical considerations as our profession requires, including those mentioned below.

Does what we talk about in our work remain confidential?

Confidentiality is one of the most important components between a client and psychotherapist. Successful therapy requires a high degree of trust with highly sensitive subject matter that is usually not discussed anywhere but with therapist. You will be provided with a  confidential disclosure agreement, and you can expect that what you discuss in session will not be shared with anyone.  During the group sessions you choose what you wish to disclose to the group. This is called “Informed Consent”.  Sometimes, however, you may want your therapist to share information or give an update to someone on your healthcare team (your Physician, Naturopath, Attorney), but by law your therapist cannot release this information without obtaining your written permission. There is a form for you to sign in the Helpful Forms section visible on the Home Page.
State law and professional ethics require therapists to maintain confidentiality except for the following situations:
* Suspected past or present abuse or neglect of children, adults, and elders to the authorities, including Child Protection and law enforcement, based on information provided by the client or collateral sources.
* If the therapist has reason to suspect the client is seriously in danger of harming him/herself or has threated to harm another person.